{"id":383,"date":"2022-07-27T17:45:06","date_gmt":"2022-07-28T00:45:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bookneurd.com\/?p=383"},"modified":"2022-10-03T18:23:56","modified_gmt":"2022-10-04T01:23:56","slug":"exploring-pathological-demand-avoidance-with-sally-cats-pda-by-pdaers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bookneurd.com\/exploring-pathological-demand-avoidance-with-sally-cats-pda-by-pdaers\/","title":{"rendered":"Exploring Pathological Demand Avoidance with Sally Cat’s PDA by PDAers"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
Damnit. I forgot my tea. I turned to go back into my building just as a man pushed an enormous rolling toolbox through the door. He stopped on the threshold as I reached for the handle and asked me if I had my fob. I nodded, and he asked if he could see it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I was instantly surging with rage. \u201cEXCUSE me, but who are YOU?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He responded with such confusion that his intent was clear. Isn\u2019t there an unwritten rule that he, a non-resident, mustn\u2019t let people walk into the building without swiping first? Regardless, I was the sort of incensed that is beyond acknowledging reason. So, I held my position, and the rest of the interaction went . . . accordingly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This isn\u2019t the first adrenaline-fueled blur I\u2019ve incited. And before I read PDA by PDAers: From Anxiety to Avoidance and Masking to Meltdowns<\/em> edited by Sally Cat, I would have silently shamed myself for my bitchiness for days after. But since my deep dive into PDA (short for Pathological Demand Avoidance not <\/em>public display of affection), I\u2019m reconsidering my reproach. Instead of seeing extreme resistance to being told what to do (or Roddenberry help me, telling my own damn self what to do) as a childish temper tantrum, I wonder whether it is a valid response to my circumstances?<\/p>\n\n\n\n